Stepping Up Into Youth Ministry

by The Rev. Canon Steven Tighe, Provincial Canon for Youth Ministry

As a French Horn player with the Los Angeles Philharmonic, Eric Overholt lived moments that can legitimately be described as glamorous. He played the Luke Skywalker solo from Star Wars at the Hollywood bowl, for 18,000 light-saber wielding fans. He’s played in the orchestra for movies that you’d recognize. It was his “dream job,” one that he had been pursuing since high school when he discovered a gift for the French Horn. That gift took him through a music degree at Baylor (where he was first introduced to Anglicanism), to a Master’s degree at The Juilliard School in New York, and eventually to a position with one of the finest orchestras in the world.

It all fell apart in 2013 when he developed a neurological condition that affected only his French Horn playing. After a very difficult three years of treatment and rehabilitation, he came to a realization: “When things started to fall apart, I was desperate. Losing the ability to play French Horn was like losing my identity. It was the beginning of a wrenching transition, and I’d like to say that the transition was a beautiful story of self-surrender, but it wasn’t. I was frustrated and angry and disappointed. When I finally gave up and put my horn down, I just started digging ditches. I spent three months with a pick and a shovel in my back yard trying to work through my frustration with God and with life.”

He came across a podcast from Phil Vischer, the creator of Veggie Tales, who described his own personal collapse as he lost Veggie Tales. Eric could relate as Vischer spoke of digging, listening, laughing, and weeping all at the same time, as he struggled with his own identity and relationship with God.

Can you say a few words about your faith up until that point?

I came to faith early. I grew up in the church, and I remember responding to an altar call at a children’s camp. From that point on, my desire was to follow Jesus. And in fact, I had always believed that He was calling me into music. It’s not exactly a stretch to see acceptance into Juilliard, or winning a job in the LA Philharmonic as an act of God! But now all of that was gone, and as I dug my ditch, I slowly began to realize that Jesus wants our surrender. What he wants most of all is a real relationship with us – to first walk in the garden with him, and only then does he want our work with him in the world.

How did you get from digging ditches to working with teenagers?

One of my most important early faith influences was a great youth minister in the Junior High ministry of the church I grew up in in Oklahoma City. He cared about us, mentored us, and raised us up as leaders in the group. That had a profound effect on my life and my faith, and since college, I’ve almost always volunteered with the youth group at the church I attended. When I realized that God was asking me to lay down my French Horn, it slowly dawned on me that He might be calling me into full time ministry at St. Luke’s Anglican in La Crescenta, California – a big part of that with teenagers.

That sounds very different from your work in music!

It was an exciting life, and I loved playing what I consider
 the greatest music ever written with some of the most gifted musicians ever to play it. I still miss it. But now, God is teaching me that such a life pales in comparison to talking about Jesus with a thirteen-year-old, or laying hands on a high-schooler and seeing them filled with the Holy Spirit. That is life-changing stuff.

Teenagers have a hard time these days. I mean, every Christian has the pressure to live a worldly life, but kids are so much more vulnerable. The pressures are immense: get straight “A’s”, get into a good college, be cool in the eyes of their friends. They’re desperate for adults in their lives who take a real interest in them as people; who can introduce them to Jesus; who walk together with them through their teenage years.

What do you think the Anglican Church has to offer teenagers?

Alot! I feel really fortunate to be in the Anglican church, and
I think the Book of Common Prayer that Thomas Cranmer put together was the result of a profound move of God. When I was first exposed to Anglicanism in college, I was amazed to find all these resources for my devotional life: the readings, the liturgy, and prayers that God still uses to draw me into his presence and plan.

That said, I think the greatest gift Anglicanism has to offer young people is the breadth of possible spiritual expression within our traditions: all the way from the rich, somber symbolism of Anglo-catholic sacramental worship to the charismatic excitement of hearing the voice of God at a concert or seeing him heal someone through our teenager’s prayers. There’s so much room for them to explore their relationship with God and their faith and service, all within the bounds of Biblical orthodoxy.

How do you think the Church can do a better job of engaging our young people?

A good youth ministry is a huge engine of growth for a congregation, and I’m seeing that at St. Luke’s. Teenagers who are following Jesus bring such vitality to the church; they have an energy for living that’s infectious. Youth ministry works best when parents and the church are in partnership. So, parents: stay invested in the spiritual lives of your children, even if it seems like they don’t want you to. You may not see it or feel like it, but you really are the most important spiritual influence in your kids’ lives. Stay in communication with the adults that are discipling your teenager.

I’d tell teenagers what I tell my kids: go to Jesus. If you have questions, go to Jesus. If you have problems, go to Jesus. There really are answers to life’s problems, and He’s got them. Learn about Him in the Scriptures. Life with Him is more whole, more full, and yes, even more fun!

Any last comments?

Yes. Teenagers: if you don’t have a youth pastor at your church, go to your rector and put them on the spot and tell them that you want them to disciple you. Just tell them that you want to learn how to read the Bible and pray.

Rectors: talk to the teenagers in your congregation, next Sunday ask them how things are going. They won’t say much at first, but when you continue to ask each week, they’ll begin to trust that you really are interested and begin to let you in. Keep at it!

And finally, please pray for me. I fail so much more often than I succeed, but I want to live my testimony that Jesus is enough and to really believe that He’s all I need.


Refuge in the Valley—Portraits of Hope

Interview by Mary Ailes

Ernie Didot is a professional photographer and videographer, and a member of the Anglican Church of the Incarnation in Harrisonburg, VA.  Recently he collaborated on photography exhibit that drew attention to the challenges facing refugees in the Shenandoah Valley.

Tell us about yourself—were you born and raised in Harrisonburg, Virginia? Have you lived there all your life? What makes the community special to you?

I’m a native Virginian, born in Richmond, but was mostly raised in what some around here call, “The State of Northern Virginia.” So I was a Washington, D.C. suburban boy and it was not until I went to college at James Madison University here in Harrisonburg that I discovered life outside of the big city or suburbia. I remember my first stroll through a farmer’s chicken house and later recounting with horror to my suburban friends the culling process. Wide-eyed and bushy-tailed, what felt very “rural” to me at the time began to grow on me. I fell in love with the people, the Valley, and the mountains.

At the time I went to college in the 80’s, the most I saw of people of color in the Valley were the migrant apple pickers (even though there was an African-American community in town, I really wasn’t aware of it). Fast forward 25 years later and the school system is now made up mostly of people of color and/or people who speak English as a second language. Because of the poultry industry and the supply of low-skill jobs, the Shenandoah Valley is an attractive relocation area for refugees. The three universities in the area, the agriculture, the international flavor, the deep Anabaptist roots, plus other industries in the area like Merck and Coors combine to make a unique mix of people. Harrisonburg is called “The Friendly City,” and I think for good reason.

You are an Anglican Christian, a member of Church of the Incarnation in Harrisonburg. How did you come to be a part of that community?

I have grown up in the mainstream evangelical currents of America. When I returned with my wife and children from Guatemala, we wandered for a while looking for a church that magnified Christ, held a high view of Scripture, and demonstrated the fruits of the Spirit in the church community. We found it in an Episcopal church plant here in the Valley, but shortly after joining the church we all went through the turmoil that many experienced in those years with the crisis in the Episcopal Church. We were part of a group of families and friends in the church who decided to plant an Anglican church in the Valley in 2010. We have all been blessed beyond measure with our church family and Rector Aubrey Spears. We have helped plant two churches now in Elkton, Virginia and Crozet, Virginia (very close to Charlottesville) and we are at another point of decision as we have reached maximum capacity again.

You work in video and photography helping clients to tell their story. What made you decide to center your work on video and photography?

My wife and I served in Christian relief and development for eight years in the highlands of Guatemala. Three years into our time there we saw the need to help provide educational material that the people could understand both linguistically and culturally. Since many of the people we worked with were pre-literate, we began producing videos and training them to produce their own videos in their own language and culture. I have since gone on to work with people around the world in helping them tell their story or tell stories that help better communicate their message. We saw how, when the gospel or quality-of-life messages were communicated in story form and in their language and in their culture, they were obviously more inclined to understand, absorb, and make life changes. 

One of my favorite things to do is produce video portraits of people and how God uses them in their vocations. Lately I have been working with the Our Daily Bread devotionals in these types of productions, which have taken me to Haiti, Kenya, and Guatemala.

I’ve only recently come back to photography after sharing a studio with a professional photographer named Howard Zehr. Howard is a rock star in the Restorative Justice world and through him I saw how he integrated the use of photography to teach restorative justice. For instance, he returned this summer to a Pennsylvania penitentiary to photograph “lifers” whom he photographed portraits of 25 years ago. Howard participated with me in this Refugee Resettlement project. He is a great man.

Currently, as we are conducting this interview, your photographs are on exhibit in Harrisonburg in a show called “Refuge in the Valley: Portraits of Hope,” that focuses on the settlement of refugees in the Harrisonburg area. What caught your attention about doing this project?

A Congolese refugee family moved into an apartment behind our house about a year ago and we got to know them. They invited us to a Congolese welcome party and the director of the Church World Service approached me about taking professional photos of refugees. I had been working on portrait photography so this seemed to be a natural fit, given we were already friends with the Congolese—plus a few Sudanese refugees in our church. It seemed like a great opportunity to help them be introduced to the town and if we hosted the show in our church, a great opportunity for our church to get to know them. I saw it as privilege for the church to host it and an opportunity to demonstrate our openness to embrace the stranger and the refugee.

How did you go about “telling the story” of a refugee through your photos? What do you look for to convey their story?

I was one of three photographers. We all decided to not show them in the context of where they live, but rather to capture the essence of who they are. We had noticed that sometimes the surroundings of their environment in photos distracted from people drilling down and really connecting with the person. My approach was to ask them to bring or wear something that strongly reflected their identity. For our neighbor, the Congolese mother, I caught her grinning from ear to ear clutching the Bible that was in her native tongue from the Congo. For her daughter, she was in a brilliantly colored outfit and headdress. I struck on a good vein with her when we started talking about hymns and worship songs from her homeland—I even had her playing and singing the music she enjoyed as the photos were being taken. One of my favorites (but didn’t make the cut in the actual show) was of her lifting her hands in praise to God. I had just asked her what brings her most joy and she said, “Praising God.”

A trio of Cuban men were particularly interesting. Two of them were high ranking in the Havana police force and the third had succeeded in escaping on his 17th try! I asked them to stand as a Cuban man would stand, which to my eyes looked like very proud men. They were sharply dressed and would often flash a “V” sign in the photo. They told me that this was the sign of resistance in Cuba against the regime. While all of them were proud, one of them was particularly melancholy because he had left behind his wife and children. The recent change in the Cuban policy meant it would be very difficult for him to bring his family to the States. I think I appropriately caught his sadness.

A 19-year-old Muslim lad named Homza from the Central African Republic appeared to be a bit down, too. He was alone with his mother in a town south of Harrisonburg not known for many Africans or Muslims. He shared that he was sad because he really didn’t receive much of an education in all of his sojourn to the States and he had just missed entering high school. It wasn’t until we started chatting about soccer that I was able to get him to really come to life.

What did you learn from the refugees while you were working on the project?

One thing I learned as we were taking pictures is that family is family. They had the same dynamics as when my family took pictures at the local Olan Mills studio back in the day. With one family, grandma was grumpy, the boy wasn’t smiling correctly for mom, the mother’s outfit needed adjusting every other photo and by the end of the session they were a bickering mess with each other—just like some experiences I recall. The other thing was that even in the relative “safety” of the U.S., they still had fears for family back home. I was looking forward to a photo session with a Yazidi family from Iraq (Mosul region) who had become fast friends with my sister-in-law. I thought that they would jump at the opportunity since we knew them so well, but I think there were concerns of the images getting back to family or friends in their country and putting them in danger for some reason. In the midst of the stresses of everyday survival in this new land, they are still very much engaged, worried, and stressed over family and friends back home.

Why do you think this is important for the community to engage in?

There are a lot of reasons, but the immediate reason is for the two-way street of acclimation: the community needs to see them as real people with the same hopes and challenges that we all face, and the refugees need to hear and see a broader community that welcomes them and wants to know them. The church needs to engage more so that we understand how we can best help them. Without engagement, it is very difficult to understand where they need or want help. We have discovered that many of the refugees are from a strong background in their faith, but are landing in a culture that is declining in its emphasis on faith. Because of the influence of the Anglican church worldwide, but particularly in Africa, we see a real openness to find a home in our church. The liturgy resonates even though we may sing worship songs more stoically, like hymns, which they call “Songs that are sung with your hands by your side.” It is an amazing opportunity at our doorstep.

Sometimes people in the church think that only specially gifted people who know the languages of the refugees are the only ones capable of helping refugees, when really it is more about simply making yourself available to help in the common things of life: transportation to the store and church; keeping an eye out for good housing; pointing them in the direction of a great thrift store; and introducing them to our simple traditions, like Christmas tree cutting and carving pumpkins. The application Google Translator has quickly become my good friend when working with refugees.

How do you see opening up more conversation on refugees improving conversation in other areas of conflict in local American communities, especially after the recent events in Charlottesville, Virginia?

Charlottesville, Virginia, feels like it is in our backyard, being only one hour away. The nation was certainly rocked, but our community felt it particularly hard, furthering an already polarized divide. The shadow side of the Valley is that expressions of anti-immigrant sentiment, symbolic displays of past racial prejudice, and other activities manifest themselves in many ways. The more we hear the refugees stories, play with their children, help them navigate the grocery aisles, and throw snowballs with them for the first time, the more we can all get on with the work of educating, building, and enjoying each other in bona fide community. As a follower of Jesus, this is par for the course and is about making all things new in His kingdom.

The exhibit is called “Portraits of Hope.” Why is hope so important?

I was thrilled with the name. We certainly wanted to communicate that these people, who have made it here on a shoestring having won the lottery-like immigration selection process, all held the common denominator that they had escaped from a seeming dead-end and now had hope for a new life. They have hope now largely because they have security, education, jobs, housing, and freedom. But what many miss and long for is their family, friends, and community. One of the hardest things for them to adjust to is not just the climate with months of cold, winter weather, but what some of them will sometimes call a cold community. Our culture is more indoors on the computer, TV, or video games, even incubated in our cars and offices. As they enjoy their newfound hope, it is important that we demonstrate that there will be hope for connecting with people, to be part of a community again.

How has your faith impacted your work in photography?

Photography, like gardening or carpentry is for others, is simply an extension of how God has equipped me to serve Him in His kingdom. Frankly, I think I am moderate on the scale of photography skills, but I do like people, I love to draw out stories from people, I understand the power of images, and l am a good connector—so if God can put that together in me and my artistic expression to see his church be a light, to be a connector, to be a hospitable welcomer—then life does not get much better.

What role does your family play in your art and work?

My kids were adopted from Guatemala at birth. They are very Mayan in look and skin color, but very American in culture. I do think that when refugees or international students make the connection as to who our children are, that this plays a role in helping break down some barriers and shyness. They have appeared in many videos as “extras” and have helped in the logistics of providing rides and caring for children more times than they probably wanted to, but they have been tremendously helpful.

My wife Katrina is a natural with people and food (she’s a licensed social worker and restaurant owner). We are in a constant state of trying new foods so, of course, this common denominator with other cultures proves to be a salve in all our interactions with international newcomers. It does not take long to discover her in the kitchen by the side of a newcomer.

How may we pray for you as you continue to tell these important stories through photography and video?

As you learn of the stories and hear of the needs, it is difficult to not want to address them. I need to learn where to begin, continue, and end in addressing the needs. I need wisdom in how to continue best in the role as a connector and communicator through the mediums of video and photography.

Mary Ailes is the Director of Communications for the Diocese of the Mid-Atlantic.

Sing! An Irish Christmas Concert Series

Join Ireland’s own Keith & Kristyn Getty, known for modern hymns and carols such as In Christ Alone, for their sixth annual tour of Sing! An Irish Christmas. As featured on Public Television to over 45 million households, the Gettys are joined by their band of virtuosic instrumentalists fusing Celtic, Bluegrass, Americana, Modern and Classical music along with cultural dance and the choral sounds of the holiday.

Because of the special relationship the Gettys have with the Anglican Church in North America, they are extending special pricing for Anglican Church in North America members who want to attend. Email for more information.

Video Preview of Sing! An Irish Christmas:

Concert Dates and Locations
Pensacola, FLDec. 3 SunOlive Baptist Church
Colorado Springs, CODec. 6 Wed Broadmoor Hotel
Colorado Springs, CO Dec. 7 Thu Broadmoor Hotel
Topeka, KS Dec. 8 FriFellowship Bible Church
Arlington, TXDec. 9 Sat First Baptist Arlington
Muscle Shoals, ALDec. 10 SunGrace Life Church
Washington, DC Dec. 13 WedThe Kennedy Center
Cleveland, OHDec. 14 ThuKeyBank State Theater in Cleveland
Chicago, IL Dec. 15 Fri Christian Heritage Academy
Charlotte, NCDec. 17 SunCalvary Church
Atlanta, GADec. 18 MonThe Fox Theatre
Roanoke, VADec. 19 Tuethe Berglund Center
New York, NYDec. 20 ThuCarnegie Hall
Reading, PADec. 21 ThuSantander Performing Arts Center
Nashville, TNDec. 23 SatThe Schermerhorn Symphony Hall